The most important thing is to enjoy your life. To be happy – it’s all that matters- Audrey Hepburn
My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style- Maya Angelou
We are meant to be happy. I am also certain it was meant to be a challenge to get and stay happy. If not, we’d take it for granted and get bored. Therefore, life is about the pursuit of happiness.
We must know that Achievement is a Science. Happiness is an Art”
Bad habits that are detrimental to our happiness need to be purged out. It’s time to learn from your mistakes rather than be conquered by them, and let your errors be of commission rather than omission.
Know you ultimately become what you repeatedly do. If your habits aren’t helping you, they’re hurting you. Below are the few examples that will kill your happiness if you let them.
Focusing On Everyone Else Rather Than Yourself
Don’t be so satisfied with the success stories of others and how things have gone for them that you forget to write your own. Unfold your own tale and bring it to life. You have everything you need to become what you are capable of becoming. Incredible change happens when you decide to take control.
This means consuming less and creating more. It means refusing to let others do your thinking, talking and deciding for you. It means learning to respect and use your own ideas and instincts to write your passage.
If you want your life story to soar to new heights, you’ve got to clear a path, reduce the time-sinks and burdens weighing you down, and pick up the things that give you wings. Keep your best wishes and your biggest goals close to your heart and dedicate time to them every day.
If you truly care about what you do and you work diligently at it, there’s almost nothing you can’t accomplish.
You Don’t Have A Dream
Do you still dream? As kids, most of us dream boldly and publicly. But as we notice that not all our dreams come true, and that it can be embarrassing to admit to one we may fail at, we stop talking about our dreams and stop having them. But in the present moment (which is all we have), dreams make us happy even if they don’t come true. Focusing on dreaming changes everything for the better, even if it feels vulnerable and scary at first.
Holding Tight To Worries And Fears
Someday when you look back over your life you’ll realize that nearly all of your worries and anxious fears never came to fruition – they were completely unfounded. So why not wake up and realize this right now.
When you look back over the last few years, how many opportunities for joy did you destroy with needless worry and negativity? Although there’s nothing you can do about these lost joys, there’s plenty you can do about the ones that are still to come.
You will find that it’s necessary to let some things go simply for the reason that they’re heavy on your heart and soul. Let go of them Let Don’t clamp shackles to your own ankles. It’s incredibly easy to enjoy more of your life right now, no matter what the situation. It’s just a matter of letting go of the layers of nonsense that are weighing you down.
Let go of your worries and fears, of your rage and jealousy, of your need to always be right and control others. Let go of your pretentiousness and your need to have everything your way. Underneath all these layers of nonsense there is a happy, productive person. When you start peeling them off and simply appreciating everything for what it is, life can be wonderfully fulfilling
Wasting Time with Negative People
Kill your habit of wasting time with negative people If they don’t love and support you, get rid of them. You don’t have to shout, kick, and scream. Just stop being available to them. They won’t notice. They’re too self-centered to care.
Always Creating Excuses
Kill your habit of always creating excuses. While you’re at it, kill the habit of creating reasons. They’re just excuses with lipstick on. Excuses will cripple your Happiness and Success. Excuses are mental monsters that give a false sense of positive reassurance. And yet they are used by millions of people almost every day of our life..
You Don’t Speak up
Do you have something to say? Having something to say and not saying it is the most common. Things you aren’t saying include: how you really feel, what you want, fess-ups to wrong doings, fess-ups to feeling wronged, taboo topics, and constructive criticism. Ensure you can speak up by making a list of all the things you know you should be talking about and put dates next to them to determine by when you’ll have those difficult conversations. No matter how long it takes, making this commitment is important to yourself respect. Each hard conversation you tackle will unleash a sense of freedom and Joy in your heart that you cannot imagine while you’re pondering, and probably fearing, what will go down. Try not to predict or control the outcome. Just go for the ride and be proud to be someone who speaks up. Soon it will become habit and you will be a much happier, more expressed person
Habit of Underachieving
You have to kill the habit of underachieving. You’re better than this. You have more in you. Start that business. Resign from that horrible job. Do it now. The only thing stopping you is you. Not your family, not your bank account.
Comparing Yourself With Everyone
You will never win this game. There will always be someone smarter, better looking, richer, and (seemingly) happier. Always. Focus on yourself, your mindset, your health, the state of your being, and you’ll win.
You Blame Others
Who’s calling the shots? Don’t forget that YOU are the “author” of your life, and that is good news! This doesn’t mean that everything in your life that’s not working is your fault; it means that you have power. There is nothing you cannot impact in your life, if you decide to focus on it and believe in changing it. Even in the most disheartening situations. As you start to take ownership of your choices and their results, you feel more self-trusting and powerful. It is as natural as breathing to look for causes outside ourselves to explain why things don’t turn out. The happy surprise will always be, when you humble yourself enough to say, “maybe it’s me,” you will find you are 95 percent of the way to the solution, along with feeling happier and more hopeful.
Waiting For the Perfect Moment
Don’t buy into the myth of the perfect moment. Moments aren’t perfect; they’re what you make them. So many people wait around for the stars to align to do what they’re here to do. The perfect moment, the perfect opportunity, the perfect state of being, etc. Wake up! These states of perfection are myths. They do not exist.
Your ability to grow to your highest potential is directly related to your willingness to act in the face of imperfection. You will come to succeed not by finding a perfect moment, but by learning to see and use life’s imperfections perfect.