Self Expression

Self-expression is the expression of your personality, feelings, or opinions, for example, through an artistic activity such as drawing or dancing. Clothes are a fundamental form of self-expression.

Children have a natural ability to live “out there,” fully self-expressed.  They’re not yet tainted by the heaviness of life, having to do with worrying about what other people think, living up to societal pressures, and fear of retribution.

So, consequently, you hear kids saying refreshing things from their mind and say things the way they feel should be like, “Mom, don’t be Daddy’s friend when he makes them feel bad.

All they understand is to tell the naked truth.  What a free way to live!  Of course, we’re not talking about the kind of truth that intentionally hurts people’s feelings. We’re talking about telling people how we feel in a kind way, and not leaving anything important to the well-being of our relationships unsaid.



Speaking your truth by saying what’s really on your mind is one way to live more fully self-expressed.

Self expression is vital to our well being. It is not very encouraged in today’s society, which tends to reward more for achievement and appeasement.

“The desire for self expression afflicts people when they feel there is something of themselves which is not getting through to the outside world” Fay Weldon

Being self-expressed means that people will see your spirit and true character; they will see the totality of who you are.  And sharing of one’s “self” fully is the ultimate in generosity and is vital for peace, happiness and fulfillment.

Why is self-expression so important? Because it is one of the ways we channel and release emotions. If we don’t express on a regular basis, we are likely to suppress which leads to things like irritability, fatigue, lack of motivation and sadness

Sometimes we are not sure how to access creativity or inspiration, or we know what we want to say or do, but are unsure of how to express ourselves, or feel ill-equipped in our expression of something.

Creative self-expression means assertion of one’s own creativity in the form of art, music, poetry, painting or anything similar. It means an expression of oneself whether it be their ideas, feelings, or personality through creative art forms.

Here are some steps to help fully express yourself

Be a Child

Children are the best teachers of self-expression. They create with so much enthusiasm, curiosity and joy without any attachment to the end product. Bring that childlike wonderment to your creative endeavors and enjoy the process

Acquire Knowledge

What we don’t know is bigger than us. People can’t fully express themselves because they lack self knowledge and general knowledge about things around them.

Many of us rarely, if ever, take time out from our harried schedules to become an observer of our own life, who we are being and fully getting to know things within and around us.  We get so bogged down in daily activities and obligations that days, months, and years fly by.  Take time to step back from your life and see whether you are truly happy, fulfilled, using your talents, and pursuing your passions.  You can even hire a life coach to help you with self-exploration to gain knowledge that can open up new possibilities for you.

Tune In

Creativity is one of the ways Spirit expresses through us. Before you go into self-expression mode, make time to connect through prayer, meditation or spending time in nature.

Engage in Creative Techniques

We can help birth ideas and create new possibilities for our life with creative techniques.  Through these techniques, we expand our creative aptitude and can potentially achieve a longstanding desire from writing a screenplay to becoming a website designer to making wedding cakes, for example.  Some creative techniques to try include: writing daily about anything that’s on your mind, keeping an idea book that you can carry with you, using mind maps for creative problem-solving, brainstorming, and creating vision boards.

Don’t Underestimate Yourself

Do not judge yourself or attempt to edit your expression while you are creating it – it will interrupt your process and radically shift you from your creative brain to your analytical one (and don’t you spend enough time there anyway?). Just allow it to flow.

Acknowledge and Celebrate Your Self

After you create something, acknowledge yourself for it! Perhaps even share it with a friend or put it on display somewhere like parents put their kid’s pictures on the refrigerator.

Celebration is key to honoring (not evaluating!) your self-expression. Many experience depression from suppressing their creativity. This is especially true for individuals who are highly right-brain dominant/creative but grew up in very left-brain dominant/logical households. Since their creativity was often misunderstood and discouraged, they had to suppress it. If you resonate with this at all and perhaps feel a little depressed, get your creativity flowing again

Develop a Keen Sense of Reality

Living in reality can be tough, but if we want to become more fully self-expressed we must face and do something about the situations that  are not working for us.  For example, if we are in meaningless jobs, unsatisfying relationships, or not fulfilling our potential, it’s time to honor our truth.  Look at your life and what areas you are not happy with and then work to make positive change.  Have faith and trust that things will work out for the better even though, initially, you may be uncomfortable.  We have a divine right to be happy and fulfilled and, if we are not, then we have the choice to change.

Full self-expression means to take a leap of faith when necessary, live life to the fullest, make the choices that honor our wants and desires, and not settle for anything less than what we deserve.

Set the Mood

Just like you’d set the mood for a romantic evening, create an atmosphere for your creative process. Use things like music, candles and sacred objects

22 Comments on “Self Expression”

  1. Not being able to fully express yourself can be very frustrating. Being involved in creative activities not only allows you to get your point across, it also gives you the chance to get your creative juices flowing, and hone your creative talents.

  2. I’m always bursting with emotions suppressed. I know how it feels. I never get the fulfillment I needed when I used to conform to people’s expectation that licenses my truth. Good to read your post, it reaffirms a lot.

  3. This is all great advice about self expression. I know sometimes it can be hard to get out of our heads and just be us.

  4. Learning how to express yourself and be okay with it is so important! I have struggled with this in the past and have and continue to find that expressing myself via creativity is the easiest for me!

  5. expressing yourself is sometimes really hard, but it is less stressful when you fully express yourself to others

  6. Nice reading some fabulous life tips. The best thing I feel is to travel more which broadens our mind and enhances creativity as also to take deep breaths before saying something.

  7. So true, expressive ourselves completely is the essential part of our emotional development. And a way forward to better communication.

  8. Interesting post, particularly in the modern climate where there seems to be a drive to be very careful what one can say (online particularly). Tricky balancing self-expression with that sometimes.

  9. Self-expression definitely comes more naturally to some. Others I think are more introverted and/or are a little afraid of ridicule. I think it’s healthier for us all to come out of our shell more and express ourselves in a positive way that doesn’t put other people down. Great thoughts expressed in this post.

  10. We can learn from our children. Our son has autism, he has no filter, which means if he thinks it he says it. Sometimes I think it would be nice to be that open.

  11. AAAW “don’t underestimate yourself” struck me. I often do that to avoid being proud but maybe I am so used to it that I am already doing it wrong.

  12. I love this quote from Deeyah Khan:

    “Self-expression should not be a challenge that demands extraordinary talent but should be a right accessible to all.”

    being expressive comes in every form.. thank you for sharing! and keep shining!!

  13. I love reading your posts as there is always something new to learn. Creative activities surely helps in expressing oneself better especially for those who find it difficult to communicate. It’s also very important not to underestimate yourself.

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